Saturday, September 19, 2015

I'm too busy THRIVING

I feel like I owe everyone an apology.  I moved my blog to this new exciting site and I promised an explanation of why and then fell off the face of the earth-ish.   I'm too busy thriving.  In reality, as promised, I am writing the book which is a full time job.  And then I have yanno, an actual full time job.  Oh, and also I'm a single mom.  So that means I have 100 full time jobs.  So sometimes I forget to blog.  Or I sit down to write and pull one of these.

Except I never ever look THAT put together or peaceful when I'm crashed out.
Merriam-Webster defines the word thrive as....

Let's discuss in order, shall we?

1.   to grow vigorously: flourish  Yes please.  More growth, more flourishing.  I visualize it like this.

Geraniums on the left are surviving.  They really are.  They aren't dead.  They even have buds on them, they are on the verge of blooming.  But they are NOT blooming.  Geraniums on the right are THRIVING.  They are realizing their full potential, their growth, their bloom.  They are flourishing.  

2.  to gain in wealth or possessions: prosper   We all have different definitions of prosperity.  For some, it actually is monetary.  For some, wealth and finances are synonymous. For me, prosperity has nothing to do with money or things.  It is of the spirit and mind.  It is finding peace, quiet, stillness, and mostly acceptance.  You can prosper in any situation, no matter how much money is, or is not in your bank account.  I wake up and prosper every single day and I promise you, there's barely any money in my bank account.  Wealth and prosperity are a state of mind that are predicated on what you show gratitude to and for.  

3. to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances, often used with "on"

"She THRIVES on drama."  we've hall heard that one, and we've all said that one.  We all know at least one person who truly does, need drama in order to thrive.  

Of course that's just one example.  What about thriving on love?  Thriving on gratitude?  Thriving on the challenge?  Thriving on pasta?   Thriving on the laughter of your children?  Thriving on or at your work, or better yet, your actual job.  Thriving on chocolate?  Anyone?  Anyone?  

What is that thing that causes YOU to thrive?

I hope there are a multitude of things.  

Stop reading RIGHT NOW and comment below -- gimme FIVE THINGS that help you thrive.  Go, go go, THRIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, August 30, 2015

Part two, in which I tattoo the word THRIVE on my body

As I've mentioned in a previous post, I can't really describe the call to be inked, I just know that it's there.  I've been thinking for awhile about my next "word" tattoo and of course, waded through a myriad of choices.

The word "worthy" kept coming back to me over and over again.  Particularly because it has been said to me in church several times by people, including my pastor who have prayed over me.  In my heart I believe that God was telling me that I am worthy.

Ok great, so here's my tattoo!

Nah, too easy.

I was talking to a new friend, one I've only known for a few weeks and I was discussing this tattoo idea with him.  He's not a tattoo guy and he's not a guy who really even knows me so why the heck was I asking him to begin with?   But here's what he said.

"You already KNOW you are worthy."
"Worthy is a word you needed for your past."
"You need something else that will represent your future."


And of course, my tattoo crystallized in that instant.  

 Can't.  Stop.  Looking.  I love it!

However, what did NOT instantly become clear is what font I would use.  Those who know me understand that I am a tiny bit of a font FREAK.  And therefore I drove Joe at Raining Ink and the friends who were with me absolutely bananas as I changed the absolute minutiae of every speck of this word.  (For the record it was all about getting that "e" just exactly right)

Because here's how it went down.  I text my friend B and ask her if she wants to run to Costco with me, because that's fun.  And then the mall, because that's a little tiny bit more fun but not really.  Then I invited her to a birthday party/work dinner thing and in the middle of dinner she turns to me and says, "Let's go get our tattoos right now."

And so we did.  

And I love the spontaneity of that.  I love that I really didn't have time to completely obsess like crazy over it.  

It's the same font that I used on my yoga mat, just tweaked and thinned out.  If you read this post, you'll see that my yoga mat is where my desire to thrive, and not just survive, began.  So not only is it pretty but it's a constant reminder of how far I've come, and where I still want to go.

The word thrive is my future.

Wait.  Not just "the word."  The action.  I will thrive.  "To thrive" is my new way of life.  I am done "surviving." 

I know it's not QUITE September yet, but I turned the page on my calendar today and this is what was waiting for me.  This is what it means to thrive. Not just to set your sights high, but to set your sights higher.  Even higher.  Higher than you can imagine.  And once you've done that, don't just hope for the best, expect wonderful things to happen.  




Here's Joe.  He was patient and fantastic even though he was wearing a
Guns N' Roses tshirt and blasting Celine Dion.